No one can deny that fans of the hit Netflix series Heartstopper are super excited for the show’s return. That’s why many were surprised when young star Kit Connor shared a life update online. Sadly, it’s something too personal and should’ve been done on his own accord. Here’s everything that went down.
Kit Connor comes out as bisexual
back for a minute. i’m bi. congrats for forcing an 18 year old to out himself. i think some of you missed the point of the show. bye
— Kit Connor (@kit_connor) October 31, 2022
Yesterday, Heartstopper actor Kit Connor (who plays the role of Nick Nelson) came out as bisexual on Twitter. But instead of it being an empowering and joyous moment for the teen actor, his coming out was tainted with dismay and frustration.
“Back for a minute,” Connor began. “I’m bi. Congrats for forcing an 18-year-old to out himself. I think some of you missed the point of the show. Bye.”
Last September, the 18-year-old actor also shared another cryptic tweet, and some fans think it’s hinting at the issues surrounding his personal life.
this is a silly silly app. bit bored of it now, deleting twitter 🙂
— Kit Connor (@kit_connor) September 12, 2022
So, how did it all come to this?
The queer-baiting accusations
Following the massive success of the Netflix series Heartstopper, Connor has been accused of queer-baiting by some fans after he was seen holding hands with actress Maia Reficco. The barrage of unfounded queerbaiting accusations prompted him to take a break from Twitter.
So, what’s “queer-baiting”, exactly?
Queer-baiting refers to a marketing strategy that’s often used in the entertainment scene to lure or tease LGBTQ+ individuals into watching a particular show. It may also refer to celebrities or public figures who capitalize on suspicions they’re part of the LGBTQ+ community for profitable gains.
Some celebrities who’ve been accused of queer-baiting are Bad Bunny, Billie Eilish, and Harry Styles. In Connor’s case, some fans believed he was only pretending to be queer for Heartstopper. It also didn’t help that so many people were putting out speculations about his sexuality.
Netizens feel sorry for Connor
Fans of the British actor called out those people who attacked him and made him feel the need to disclose his sexuality.
quick psa if you were a REAL fan of kit connor or heartstopper you wouldn’t care about his sexuality or would actually wait for him to come out ON HIS OWN TERMS so to the people who basically attacked him and made him feel like he had to come out dont you dare call yourself a fan
— tali (@taliheffetz) October 31, 2022
Heartstopper author Alice Oseman and fellow actors Joe Locke and Sebastian Croft also have nothing but words of support for Connor.
I truly don’t understand how people can watch Heartstopper and then gleefully spend their time speculating about sexualities and judging based on stereotypes. I hope all those people are embarrassed as FUCK. Kit you are amazing 💖
— Alice Oseman Updates (@AliceOseman) October 31, 2022
Say it louder for the toxic people at the back, Alice!
You owe nothing to anyone. I’m so proud of you my friend 💕
— Joe Locke (@joelocke03) November 1, 2022
Kit Connor, the world doesn’t deserve you. Love you my friend ❤️
— Sebastian Croft (@SebastianCroft) November 1, 2022
Some netizens also expressed how fandoms can be toxic and entitled. And honestly, they’re right. Sure, celebrities are public figures, but they’re entitled to their own privacy like anyone else.
Fandoms can be amazing and fandoms can be the worst. What happened with Kit Connor is so sad and it shows just how entitled and awful some “fans” can be. He’s barely more than a kid and even if he wasn’t, he didn’t owe anyone a damn thing.
— Anna (@whispered_story) November 1, 2022
Do we need to abolish the idea of “coming out”?
the whole kit connor situation is the exact reason we need to abolish the idea of “coming out.” it’s rooted in heteronormativity, assuming everyone’s straight until proven otherwise. stop telling queer people that they owe you a direct coming out or a label.
— jj (@mirrorballboobs) November 1, 2022
Meanwhile, one user pointed out that people should end the culture of coming out for good because it’s rooted in heteronormativity, a concept where heterosexuality is commonly perceived as the default sexual orientation. Connor joins the list of public personalities like NikkieTutorials and Rebel Wilson who were pressured to come out.
What happened to them is an obvious example that members of the LGBTQ+ community continue to suffer various forms of harassment, hate, and prejudice. There’s still a long ahead for equality, and hopefully, we can have a world where people can freely express their authentic selves without fear of being judged.
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